Generosity is quite a simple word but doing the deed is usually the hard part. Some persons easily tilt towards acts of generosity without excessive pushing. For some others, doing the act of being generous is usually not that easy for them to carry out. For these Persons, their reasons may vary, and usually, their reasons usually vary from not being motivated enough to doing the act of giving to the ones who would say they usually forget to or, they have not found a convincing cause to donate to.

There are simple steps we can use to intentionally giving a more intentional act.

• Consider the benefits of Generosity: Reports indicate that People usually do things not because they are really prompted to, but because they have been informed about the benefits that will be theirs. While generosity is seen as the opposite of self-serving, sometimes, the need arises to count the benefits to bolster one’s ego. Generous People report living a healthier, happier and more satisfied living because it provides us with a sense of making a difference in the world.
• One continuous small step: What usually makes the difference is doing something consistently. A one off 1,000 Naira donation would definitely make a difference but a constant donation of 10 Naira every month would totally go farther than the 1,000 Naira. As such, the secret is giving small but constantly.
• Give First: Sometimes, People get to become very calculative when it comes to money matters. Once a paycheck is dropping, they have already fashioned out the amount that will go towards feeding, transportation and so many other factors. But, they tend to leave out giving because it’s usually not part of the original budget. The trick here, is to save off a portion regardless. Cultivating this habit will help make it easier for one to have something to give or donate to charity.
• Try diverting one expense: Have you checked how You spend money regularly? A check of your spending pattern would show some regular unnecessary thing One usually purchases with money. What if You divert the money that particular expense to the cause of charity?

Try these few tricks and let Us know how it worked for You.
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The most effective method to Destroy Bad Habits

Have you got any unfortunate propensities? Obviously, you have, no utilization imagining something else. It’s characteristic and all part of being human. You might need to change them however be straightforward, you don’t think that its simple. This article will help you supplant them with great propensities, one propensity at once.

Snappy Exercise

Overlap your arms. You didn’t need to consider doing that isn’t that right? You simply did it. In any case, on the off chance that I asked you which arm was on top, without checking, you presumably wouldn’t know. You have been so usual to collapsing your arms a specific way that it’s turned into a propensity. The question is, would it say it was a propensity which was deliberately made or unwittingly made? For this situation, I speculate it’s the last mentioned. So what, you may think, it doesn’t generally make a difference which way I overlay my arms. That might be valid for this situation; however it’s not generally so.

This Doesn’t Feel Right

Presently have a go at collapsing your arms the other way – unless you’re an exceptionally uncommon breed, I expect you thought that it was ungainly to do and by one means or another it simply didn’t feel right, isn’t that right? Since you have collapsed your arms various times similarly, it has gotten to be easy. Such is the god-like force of redundancy. Presently consider every one of the errands you do regularly from showering, getting dressed, making some tea to more unpredictable matters, for example, driving and you will find that you likewise do these positively, without intentionally considering.

This is all okay with regards to propensities which are either bravo or nonpartisan. The way that you can do every one of these things so effectively is valuable since it spares you a considerable measure of time and vitality. Let’s be realistic, however, some of your propensities are dangerous, whether they be a periodic method of considering, horrible eating routine, an excess of liquor, little practice or even not charging what you’re worth!

Could You Do Something About It?

Yes obviously you can. Is it simple? It relies on upon your meaning of simple. It involves a similar level of perseverance required to make the undesirable propensities. I have heard and perused ordinarily that it just takes 21 days to change a propensity. So I chose to do a straightforward investigation on myself.

Genuine Story

I saw I was in the propensity for leaving the toothpaste top off and the toothbrush (electric) on the bowl as opposed to returning it on its charger. I chose I needed to change this propensity and set to it. It took me a decent 6 weeks to split it generally and even now, periodically, I neglect to do it. What I will state, however, is that toward the starting I needed to work harder to do this and bit by bit it’s gotten to be simpler. I don’t believe I’m absolutely unwittingly skillful yet, which implies that despite everything i’m thinking about it. My decision is that it takes significantly longer to amend a propensity than I have been persuaded.

The Practical Part

How about we quit wasting time then and make a methodology for changing propensities which places you in the driving seat.

1. Choose what propensity you need to change.

2. Solicit yourself on a scale from 1-10 how imperative it is for you to change that propensity (with 1 being low and 10 being high). Giving your answer is 8 or above, you can execute it dead. You likewise need to ensure that it’s truly your choice and not somebody else’s. i.e. what’s the advantage to you of evolving it?

3. Pick the substitution conduct.

4. Make the new move intentionally.

5. Compensate yourself somehow (ideally not with sustenance or drink).

6. On the off chance that you pass, only right yourself without pounding yourself.

7. Continue honing until the new conduct gets to be lasting.

You can, obviously, apply this procedure to any number of propensities you need to change, each one in turn.

Furthermore, as usual, on the off chance that you know somebody who may profit by this article, kindly do impart it to them – they won’t be frantic at you for furnishing them with esteem. Guarantee!

Why Help Orphans

What number of vagrant youngsters do you think there are?

There are a stunning number of vagrants around the world. Actually, more than 140 million youngsters are considered vagrants by some definition. Unfortunately, there are vagrant youngsters who are even surrendered by the measurements! Who tallies the individuals who live in the city, in landfills and sewer frameworks? How right? Back to questions.

Where do vagrant kids originate from?

To start with we can address the obvious…things that we read and find out about in the news constantly: War, malady, destitution, regular calamities, relinquishment, and mischances are among a portion of the main sources.
These can be specifically connected with vagrants by the meaning of a youngster who has lost one or both guardians. Inside and beside the previously mentioned are: social weights, disregard, mishandle, youngster subjugation, religious imbalance, kid prostitution, contracted bondage and that’s just the beginning. These are all the more nearly connected with kids without parental care that may not be a kid that has lost at least one guardians.

They may live with a relative or neighbor or are in the city or in the wildernesses and subjected to one of the earlier specified misuse. In some cases they essentially live with a visually impaired, sick or exceptionally old relative that affections, however can’t enjoy them. There are numerous shifted mixes that add to a kid enduring without parental care, however the outcomes are the same, paying little respect to the cause.

Measurably the subgroups, for example, these would not be considered vagrants, but rather by traits connected with manhandle and disregard, they are one and the same as far as the result for the tyke. Maybe in some ways their status nearly makes them undetectable and the peril they are in, is misjudged by numerous not acquainted with their way of life. Back to questions. (interface)

What do you think happens to the normal vagrant tyke?

Past affliction and a definitive catastrophe of death, the youngsters that do survive, regularly do as such in ways that belittles and criminalizes themselves and conveys enduring to others too.
The dismal reality however, is that if a decent and minding individual is not there to give what they require, who is? Pimps, kid work managers, psychological militants, revolt armed forces with kid troopers, tyke traffickers, even less – than-great willed – relatives who need an individual slave. The final product is really sad the same number of the vagrant kids out there will pass on of starvation and issues identified with lack of healthy sustenance.

They will kick the bucket from preventable sicknesses. They will pass on because of others and themselves. They will spend quite a bit of their life in prison. They will do damage to others and effect the world in a negative design. Back to questions. (connect)

In any case, it’s a masssive issue, would we be able to truly have any kind of effect?

Maybe the greatest disaster of all is that we know how to transform catastrophe into triumph… we simply require more help doing it! We know how to transform horrendous insights into brilliant measurements. What’s more, when you help the kids, you are doing an awesome thing, however the great you have done doesn’t stop there. It spreads! Back to questions. (interface)
Tony Asuquo

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THE ART OF COMMUNICATION

 “If you are trying to persuade people to do something or buy something, it seems to me you should use the language they use every day” David Ogilvy

A fourteen-year-old boy saw his messenger job at Western Union as one thing – an opportunity to move up. He had a concrete plan too: Do more than was expected, so he’d get noticed by his bosses. He started by memorizing names, addresses and faces of people to whom he made deliveries. Soon he recognized many of them on the street and cut delivery time. Then he taught himself to operate the telegraph. His plan worked. Shortly thereafter, he was promoted to telegraph operator. He went on to say in latter years as a multimillionaire “The battle of life is already half won by the young man who is brought personally in contact with high officials. Everybody should do something beyond the sphere of his duties – something (that) attracts the attention of those over him”.

Everything you do communicates something, from the look on your face to the pace of your walk, even to the focus of your eyes. You are sending signals that others receive and interpret in divers forms. Attitudes, feelings and preferences can be powerfully transmitted even in the absence of word. No communication is devoid of meaning.

Think for a minute about how you communicate with others, with or without words. Your messages have great impact. In most cases, little is said, but a lot is communicated. In every communication, you are either positive or negative.

Don Dwyer identified 3 major means of effective communication unique to every individual:

(1) Sight – Some people can only relate with what they see. No matter how much you explain things to them they will never get it until you show them how to do it and you will be surprised at the speed with which they would assimilate that information. The Biblical story of Abraham further buttresses this point. God had to take Abraham outside to see the stars, the sand and the landmass as a physical representation of the covenant between them.

(2) Speech – Some people respond only to sound as against other means of communication. Words of encouragement, tone and texture of voice could bring out the best or worst in those that fall into this category. A good manager must learn to understand this type of people in his organization and even customers. A little explanation and off they go only to come back with much better result than expected. They can feel your love, assurance and confidence or otherwise in the instruction you give to them. They also need regular feedback on their performances. I once heard the story of a woman who filed for divorce. During the court session the judge asked her why she filed for divorce. She simply said the last time her husband ever said “I love you” to her was on their wedding night 20 years ago. And that she just couldn’t stick with it anymore living with a husband that does not love her. The Judge turned to the husband asked him why he never told her that he loved her again since their wedding night. The man replied, “Because I have not changed my mind, if I had I would have told her”. The man did not understand the communication mode for his wife. She was simply the type that responds to speech. They need to hear it over and over again.

(3) Touch – These are the type that are kinesics. They need to feel a sense of touch to give their best. They feel you through you a pat on the back, handshake and hug, stroke of the hair. Sometimes a father ruffles the hair of his son when he does something good. A boss can gently apply pressure on the shoulder of his worker to drive home a point to him.  So many people fall into this category that today are well known. Take for example Helen Adams Keller. Helen Keller was a woman from the small farm town of Tuscumbia, Alabama who taught the world to respect people who are blind and deaf. Her mission came from her own life; when she was 1 ¹/₂, she was extremely ill, and she lost both her vision and hearing. It was like entering a different world. A lady called Anne Sullivan was asked to teach her, within just a few days, she taught Helen how to spell words with her hands (called the manual alphabet, which is part of the sign language that deaf people use.) The trouble was, Helen didn’t understand what the words meant—until one morning at the water pump (like an outdoor water fountain) she got a whole new attitude. Anne had Helen hold one hand under the water. Then she spelled “W-A-T-E-R” into Helen’s other hand. It was electric! The feeling turned into a word. Immediately, Helen bent down and tapped the ground; Anne spelled “earth.” Helen’s brain flew; that day, she learned 30 words.

Have you been able to identify the type of communication mode people around you respond to?  If not, I believe you can start now. Deal with them according to their design and you will experience great success. Your clients can feel your fears, concern and confidence in your handshake.

The deepest level of communication is attitude. Your clients will read into you before they buy into you. Good communication will increase workers morale. Before any verbal or non-verbal communication occurs, your attitude sets the stage. Attitude is the mental filtering system that ultimately determines your thoughts and feelings. As your attitudes repeatedly display themselves, a reputation emerges which ultimately defines you to the world and may likely define your organization. To be productive, you need to have a reputation as a positive communicator. People will listen for the positives in everything you say. They let their defenses down because they fully believe you are going to say something positive. Attitude drives communication and behaviour.  Your attitude to work will determine how far you will go up or down the ladder of your organization. Getting promoted does not require genius. It requires continued attention to details, tenacity, understanding effective chiefs and doing more than the next person.

Non-verbal communications can be much more powerful than what you say. Your non-verbals can communicate a deep respect for others, just as they can speak of disrespect. They signal your level of interest, your willingness to be patient, your degree of confidence or your lack of these traits. “What you say is as important as how you say it.” People look for cues to determine if they matter. While you may memorise and speak wonderful words, they will get no further than where your non-verbals will take them. Non-verbals tend to be more closely aligned to your true subconscious thoughts. Your customers and colleagues believe your cues far more readily than your consciously monitored words.

When Linda Sanford was assigned to IBM’s mainframe business in 1992. She decided to take drastic steps to save the almost dead section. What she did was to first make sure that workers have positive attitude. So she strolled up and down workers’ cubicles in the company offices within and outside the U.S. She knocked on customers’ doors. From time to time stops to see what workers were doing and talk about their ideas, their concerns, why they think the unit is not successful right now and how they can save the unit. After her fact-finding mission, she started regular “town hall” meeting. Those sessions were a chance for Sanford to discuss what she’d learned from her walks. This calmed their worry, so they could focus on improvement. During her 3-year term – 1995 to 1997 – growth rocketed to 45%. That is the power of good communication. She left her white collar and move into the actual work place to relate with her team. They developed kinship with her, which brought great success.

People weigh carefully what you say and what you believe. Spoken words represent a form of commitment to the thoughts and attitudes that might otherwise remain hidden. While your attitude and non-verbal communication set the stage for your ability to communicate significantly, the words you speak are the finishing touches. They determine much of your success with people. People respond to words that are sincerely spoken. A word fitly spoken edifies and helps you to overcome a lot of hurdles. Choose your words with great care and be mindful what you say.

Liking isn’t helping

The job of making the world a better place is not for a certain group or sect. Rather, it is for all and sundry. No one is left out in this pursuit for a better life; not just for ourselves but more importantly for the next door neighbour. For in every corner is a hurting heart, a lonely child, a diseased community, someone reaching out for a helping hand.

Many efforts have been made by many to alleviate pain yet, there’s more work to be done.

With the advent of technology however, it has become easier to reach a larger audience and thus raise awareness to lend a helping hand from any part of the globe.

With the advent of social media, you can join a campaign and fight for a cause irrespective of geographical location. Liking, commenting, retweeting and sharing a post helps to reach a larger audience in lesser time.

It is however expedient to mention at this point, that Liking is not helping. It is now common to see thousands of likes and comments on a picture or post of a needy individual or situation with very little action taken by these numerous likers.

LIKING IS NOT HELPING!!!

Don’t just like, take a step to help sponsor that child, send relief items to displaced persons, pray. Do all you can to help salvage the situation. Enough of liking and writing an epistle in the comment box. What exactly are you doing to advance the cause of humanity?

What efforts are you making to ensure that the change you desire is a reality.

In addition to liking, DO SOMETHING.

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One of the principal keys to living above average is the ability not only to know why you are existing on this planet or the discovery of your assignment but the ability to create a detailed plan on how to get there. Your purpose is a destination made up of other little purposes. However, you must understand that your lifespan on earth is limited; therefore you must plan so that you will maximize the moments in order to get to your purpose.  Your purpose is not average; therefore people with average mindsets cannot get there. Your purpose is a masterpiece, which is accessible only to those who deserve to get it. Such people are the above average people, people who will settle for nothing but the best.

Let’s examine what planning is all about.

PLANNING

Plan as though you will live for forever (because you will). Live as though you will die tomorrow (because you will die on some tomorrow).

Your level of influence today is based on your past plan. Your influence tomorrow is based on your plans today. If you do not planned today you are doomed tomorrow. Planning is a function of what you can see or a glimpse of the future. It is the larger picture that brings the picture within the picture. One cannot go forward in life regardless of the enormity of resources in your hand without planning.

Planning means capture information, reorganize, reapply, engage, access, re-establish and process information. Planning deals with facts and figures, ideas and numbers. Success is a programmed event. A research was conducted on lottery winners, and it was discovered that majority of then end up being flat broke within a year. If you stumble at wealth you will most definitely stumble out of but for one thing, a good plan.

Planning is the ability to process information to a productive end through your mind. Most information comes raw, void, without a shape. It is planning that gives shape. That information could be a dream, a vision, an idea but it will die as one until you employ the help of planning to give it shape. Life is all about processes. It is easy to see this in nature; the interconnectivity of nature is stupendous. From the great to the small, none can exist in isolation. Take for example, man breathes in oxygen and breathes out carbon dioxide with is what plants needs. The plants on the other hand take our carbon dioxide and releases oxygen which gives us life. This is a product of a higher mind with the ability to plan to the minutest details. Be one too.

A plan is a little sketch upon which a dream is built. It is an arrangement for doing a thing. It is a detailed diagram of a dream. It is not enough to dream of a successful life, you need to put it to work. Planning is the action plan of your dream. When you think of building a great financial empire, what are the things you need to do to get to that financial haven. Do you need to work hard, cultivate the habit of saving, and careful spending etc? These are the things you need to sit down to plan for. There is no lasting success, wealth and riches without a well-structured plan. Planning is a major prerequisite to building wealth.  Every great man planned his way to success. There is a financial Eldorado (Spanish city of great riches) but without planning you cannot get there.

Start planning for your tomorrow now. During the course of your planning, you need to differentiate the long-term goals from the short-term goals. Then segment your plans into hourly, daily, monthly, quarterly and yearly goals. Plan on papers; don’t just plan in your mind. Let your plans be written in black and white. Until you write it, no one will see it, until you make it plain and readable (a detailed plan, blueprint) nobody will run with it, including you. I don’t want to waste my life on what is not clear to me nor do you want to do it. Some people already have a five-year fifteen-year plan ready while you still sleeping. A man once said that a short pencil is better than a long memory. Write down your plans for that business, marriage, home, school, journey, seminar, month, year, finance, body, child, daily and constant improvement etc.

Set goals for your self and plan towards its achievement. A goal is a dream with a deadline. When your goals have deadlines then you can evaluate your success. Don’t deal with abstract or vague goals but seeable and tangible ones. Planning gives you the ability to identify the things that will complement your targets in life. It will be easy to identify the people that fit into that dream of your. It also makes it easy for people to identify the roles they can play in your life. Your success is tied to the plans you make.